Okay, maybe that’s a tad harsh. But, as a person who seems to like to build people up at my own expense, I think it’s a step in the right direction. Fixing everything and trying to find my own self esteem and self worth by looking outside of myself sometimes attracts unhealthy people.
“Love me so I can love myself!” I seem to say in a whisper, much like those silent dog whistles, that only a narcissist can hear.
Friends and neighbors, I can tell you honestly…that does not work. If in fact you’d like to attract people that will take and not give anything back, if you’d like to spend your time trying to please the unpleaseable, if you’d like to feel smaller everyday…well, that’s the recipe.
Look in the mirror, into your own eyes, and see how wonderful you are. Look within.
Don’t forget to love yourself.
I love this: Look in the mirror, into your own eyes, and see how wonderful you are. Look within. Don’t forget to love yourself.
As someone who has done this in the past, it’s a somewhat strange experiment. Years ago, I did not recognize the person in the mirror. I think I do now. I wonder if the difference lies in the fact that years ago, I was trying to be the person I thought I should be and now I’m trying to be true to myself…
Oh boy, just got a chill. Yes, I can totally relate to that. I slip, sometimes, back into that other me but I’m getting better at catching myself. Thank you, Diana.
Harsh maybe…but the truth hurts sometimes. And this is truth.
“Love me so I can love myself!” I seem to say in a whisper, much like those silent dog whistles, that only a narcissist can hear – YES! Step away from the narcissist, turn around, and run. Like most of their breed, they’ll never even notice you’re not there until it’s time for them to want or need something for themselves.
So…you’ve nailed the disease, you’ve described the symptoms, you’re offered a remedy…now Doctor Mo…here’s to taking your medicine, 3x a day, until you can look in that mirror of Kierkegaard’s and see the miracle you are. xoxo
Amen to that! Why did it take me all these years to like myself? They say first you get the pebble, then the rock and then the whole building crashes down on you. Still picking bricks out of my hair! Onward!!
Need help? I’m a pretty good picker myself! And damn it…NO going backwards allowed! When you coming to Virginia? We can have a pickin’ and grinnin’ session! 🙂
Be careful what you wish for or you may find me on your doorstep!
I’ll send you the address…and there’s a Welcome Mo matt on the porch
Love ya Lady!!
Excellent advice 😀
Wow! Powerful post and i LOVE that quote.
All that you say is so true. I have been SO guilty of trying to please everyone else and when I have not been able to have thought there must be something wrong with me.
That’s when your quote comes in 🙂
I had for many years forgotten to look properly in the mirror at the real me.
Thanks for the reminder today.
I think I’m still trying to figure out exactly who I am. I am so willing to let someone else define me and I don’t catch that I’m doing it at first. We are all a work in progress I suppose!
Yes indeed we are. How is it with you, by the way? What have you been up to?
I’m good. Work has been busy finally. It took about two years longer that I had hoped for things to really get off the ground but i’s working out. Last of four is heading off to college in September too so that’s been exciting. Almost an empty nest and a new chapter. Thanks for asking.