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It always seems impossible … 
until it’s done.

Nelson Mandela

This week I began step one in the plan to launch the nonprofit I’ve been working on. I suppose it’s not really step one because I’ve been doing many things, including mountains of paper work and putting a board together, but this week began a more public launch.  I made the first steps to teach in a community development organization.  It’s important for me to partner with other local nonprofits in order to make mine successful, so this feels like the beginning. My NPO will have a workplace literacy component, so getting back to teaching adult ESL courses is something I’ve been looking forward to. The students are all recent immigrants and, as always, there are a few students that really knock me out. This time it was a couple from a small African country that had been in the U.S. a mere two months and were already a month in to an English language class. Their lives, and that of their two children, have been difficult, yet there was no trace of self-pity. They have been through things that would have crushed most people, yet they are optimistic. They have lost every material possession, yet they are grateful. There is a mix of pain and beauty in their eyes as they struggle with the language.  It moves my heart in ways I can’t describe and makes me so sure that I am moving in the right direction. I am so honored to have the chance to touch their lives.  People, my own age, starting over with nothing but their spirit and determination for something better.  It is humbling, and it should be.

It made me wonder about people I know. People with every opportunity, yet they continue to be angry for all that isn’t handed to them. Instead of working harder, they continue to find fault with everything around them rarely looking at their own hand in the way their lives have turned out. Is it easier to place blame? Well, maybe in the short run.  Is it narcissism that causes some people to blame everyone around them for their own circumstances?  Is it having so very little that causes others to just work that much harder when life is unfair?

It didn’t take long but I’ve learned more than I taught, and I’m sure that nothing is impossible unless you decide it is.

When I let go of what I am, 
I become what I might be.

Lao Tzu


Shine Challenge

I like the sound of this.


a 31 day guide to embracing your authentic, beautiful self

so you can be lit from within to live your passion and purpose

and give your gifts to the world

Are you ready to choose you, appreciate you, love you and have no idea how to start?

Have you been thinking about taking the Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance  journey but didn’t know if it would work for you or weren’t sure about making a year-long commitment to you?

Do you want supportive, encouraging company and a little reassuring guidance on your journey?  Then shine is for you.

how shine works: 

Every day in August, there will be a daily post here at www.rosiemolinary.com that will offer you inspiration on your self-acceptance journey and  then guidance on how to take one simple step that day towards living in self-acceptance.  Complete that day’s challenge and come back and post a comment about your experience with that challenge and you will be entered to win one of many awesome giveaway prizes.  There will be weekly giveaways and an end of the month grand finale giveaway.

getting started:

Each daily post in August will feature a challenge.  Complete the challenge and come back and share about it- what did you learn, how did it challenge you, how did it feel, would you do it again, etc- as a comment and you will be entered in the giveaways.  Every time you comment, you add an entry.  If you complete and comment about the challenges on 17 days of shine, you will have 17 entries for the grand finale drawing and the number of challenges accepted to that point in each weekly giveaway.   The weekly giveaways will happen every Friday.

Want to talk shine on Twitter?  Just use the hashtag #shine.

There are also several different ways to get a few more entries in the giveaways.

#1-3   Sign up for my newsletter, follow me on Twitter, and follow me on Facebook.

#4-5  Follow Karina Dresses, the grand prize giveaway sponsor, on Twitter andFacebook.

If you do bonus entries 1-5 (and you get one entry per follow/sign up), leave me a comment here saying something like “I followed you on FB and Twitter and signed up for your newsletter” and I’ll add your entries to the giveaway.

Also, Karina would love for you to let them know that you are their new friend/ follower because of shine and this blog so feel free to post on their blog or tweet them that you are a new friend because of shine/ Rosie Molinary.

get to know the sponsors:      

Many amazing people have come together to support shine and offer those of you taking this journey wonderful prizes all along the way.  I want to introduce you to all the sponsors that have given shine a spark.  Check them out!

Round of applause to…

Polly Campbell, author of Imperfect Spirituality

JL Fields of JL Goes Vegan Coaching

Mara Glatzel of Medicinal Marzipan

Anna Guest-Jelley of Curvy Yoga

Jodi Helmer, author of The Green Year and other books

Lee McCracken of Yes Ma’am Tees

Julie McCue of You are Loved Designs

Michelle Marie McGrath of Sacred Self

Sally McGraw of Already Pretty

James and Mary Rose Taylor of Birkenstock Feet First, the Arboretum Shopping Center in Charlotte, NC

Special thanks to…

Karina Dresses for offering the grand prize giveaway of one of their dresses.  Got your eye on one of their near one of a kind dresses?  Order one now and just use this discount code (MOLR30) to receive $30 off any full-priced dress.  Enjoy!

Amber Karnes of My Aim is True and Body Positive Yoga for generously designing and donating the gorgeous shine logo.  I mean, seriously, could the woman be any more talented and big hearted?

Alright, we’re all in this together this month.  Let’s shine!

Choices and Courage


Whatever you are not changing,
you are choosing.
 — Laurie Buchanan

As with most questions in life, if you pay very careful attention, the answer presents itself. First subtly, which is why those most ‘in tune’ get the message right way. Then, with a little more force. Perhaps the stain on the ceiling is growing and it’s time to check out the reason for that? If we ignore that message we often get a full-blown catastrophe. The ceiling stain becomes the roof that leaks, which becomes the roof that falls in on your head.  The final answer is now given in a way that we just can’t ignore.

I have always aspired to be the person who got the message at the first whisper. Unfortunately, the reality is that I’ve often been the girl who stayed too long at the party; stuck out the bad relationship hoping it would change and when it did it was for the worse; worked at the stressful job until it made me ill; held the hand of the incredibly needy friend until they sucked the last bit of energy out of me and then were nowhere to be found when I needed them.  I’ve almost always known what I should do, but instead I stayed. Maybe I was always worried that I’d leave right before things got good. Maybe I just afraid to be wrong. 

I hope I have finally learned that staying beyond the usefulness of anything, whether it is a roof or a relationship, is not healthy. It is also not a failure to choose to change your circumstances when those circumstances conflict with what is beneficial to your overall self-worth, self-image, health, or aspirations. Choosing to surround your self with healthy, supportive people and rewarding work is how we love ourselves and it is impossible to create a fulfilling life, in my opinion, if you don’t first love  and care for yourself. Many things, both good and bad, are wonderful learning experiences.  It’s important to know when to let go and move on.

So as I step in to a new phase in my own life I am focusing on trusting my intuition. I am also  trying to remind myself that sometimes even when you’re scared, for whatever reason, that’s not enough of a reason to stop going forward. The safety of the familiar, the hope that sticking it out will be rewarded, or just the fear of regrets, are not enough to of a reason to ignore needed change or prolong the inevitable.

Courage is being scared to death… and saddling up anyway. – John Wayne




“Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan, ‘press on’ has solved, and always will solve, the problems of the human race.”
Calvin Coolidge

Nothing impresses me more than a person with a goal and who is unwilling to give up. As a special education teacher I think my role, more than anything, has been to try and instill the belief that given enough hard work anything is possible. Watching the revelation that a student is capable of achieving a goal that they didn’t initially believe they could accomplish has been the joy of this job. Having been any part of making that happen for someone has been an absolute blessing in my life.

I think that is what makes moving on to something new so difficult. I have made my mind up, but can’t seem to give my resignation. Then, I remind myself that I have something just as important to accomplish in this new role. I thought when I decided to teach that I would be teaching. Seems like something easily assumed, right? But instead I find I spend most of my days responding to emails, testing, writing reports and in meetings. Often, I’m forced to hand over my lessons and ideas to a tutor who then teaches my class. It has actually become a treat to be able to interact with the students. Enough! But still I can’t seem to resign. I do love the students and I enjoy my role in lives but that isn’t enough anymore.

My hope for this new chapter is that I’m able to instill that knowledge that anything is possible given enough tenacity and persistence. I may even need the occassional reminder of that myself!  I hope that if I can offer support and also believe enough in someone at the right time, that they may be able to truly believe in themselves. That is the part of this job that has made me come in every morning and if I can recreate that I’m sure I will again feel just as blessed.

Good luck is another name for tenacity of purpose.” Ralph Waldo Emerson