How do you determine when you are asking for too much from another person? How much should you try to change in order to make a relationship work? When is it okay to accept less than you want or need without compromising beyond what you deserve? When is it just too much?
We all know there are things that we could improve upon. We could be more open, more accepting, more tolerant. Perhaps we need more patience or not to expect our partner to be “the world” to us.
But when do we stop trying to mold ourselves into another person’s idea of perfection and say “I am enough.” “I am enough with all of my faults, idiosyncrasies and peculiarities. I may not be perfect but I’m me, and if that’s not good enough, then it’s not me that you want. “
When do we look in the mirror and decide that changing certain things may be long over due and accepting another for who they are, whether it is or is not exactly enough, is worth the effort?
Where is the middle ground?
After all those years as a woman hearing ‘not thin enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not this enough, not that enough,’ almost overnight I woke up one morning and thought, ‘I’m enough.’