I’ve alluded to the last year as being one of growth, and seldom is there growth without pain, I’m sorry to say. The skill of finding the lesson in the event is what, I believe, separates those that sink from those that swim, pull themselves up on to the shore, and then write a book about the experience.  Watching one of my own as they struggled and continue to struggle with addiction, because really all you can do is watch no matter how much you want to help, has shown me that I’ve raised a swimmer. It doesn’t hurt to have a few people on the shore with a life raft cheering you on either, I suppose.

Keep swimming baby. I’m treading water right alongside you.

“One small crack does not mean that you are broken, it means that you were put to the test and you didn’t fall apart.” -Linda Poindexter

About Magnolia Beginnings

Just when you think you have it all down it changes again or... “Reshaping life! People who can say that have never understood a thing about life—they have never felt its breath, its heartbeat—however much they have seen or done. They look on it as a lump of raw material that needs to be processed by them, to be ennobled by their touch. But life is never a material, a substance to be molded. If you want to know, life is the principle of self-renewal, it is constantly renewing and remaking and changing and transfiguring itself, it is infinitely beyond your or my obtuse theories about it.” ― Boris Pasternak, Doctor Zhivago

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  1. Thank you for this. You are right. As a mother, friend, family member or stranger. All anyone can do is be there for the people striving to keep their heads afloat. I regret the times my mother must have felt so helpless when I was struggling with my addictions. When I got sober I had to watch helplessly as my little brother did the same. Thankfully, my little brother always looked up to me and the struggles that I overcame. My honesty with him, about the pains and sorrows that filled my life during my heavily using years, helped him to make a better life for himself. Him and I have both, except for a couple minor relapses, have been sober going on 6 years now. It warms my heart to hear him say thank you to me for being there and wish my mother was still alive so I could thank her, as my brother as thanked me.

    Best of wishes to you. You’re efforts, patience and love will not go unnoticed by those you stand by during their hard time. You are the swim coach, the life raft and the cheers on the sideline all in one.

    • Well I like to think I’m a pretty tough cookie but you got me. What a beautiful thing for you to say. I’m sorry you can’t thank your own mother but you’ve just paid it forward, trust me. I’m sure she would be proud of you for taking the time to lift someone else up like you have done. Thank you.

  2. It is SO hard when someone you love has this problem and you cannot do anything but support and hope. I do hope that you get through this as a family and become stronger for it.
    Thinking of you.

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