“The more I see, the less I know for sure.”― John Lennon

There is a mistake many of us may be making in these days of social media and the advertising of our lives. We tend to believe everything we read and see at face value.

We were told to be wary of the news in sound bites, but do we hold the same level of cautionary awareness to life in Facebook posts and twitter messages? Are our blog posts of amusing incidents indicative of our lives? Are the quick glimpses of happiness posted in Instagram  just brief bits of joy we prefer to look upon while we look away from the day to day?

There is a tendency to believe that other people’s lives are like a TV sitcom where life is full of parties, vacations, and fantastic achievements surrounded by family and friends who offer unconditional love and approval.  The pitfall is that we may look at our own lives and wonder why we are still sitting in your robe, with that bum knee, and the extra 20 pounds, wondering how to pay the bills and why one of the children isn’t speaking to you.

Sometimes life is all of these things. It’s a moody, ungrateful child who is the joy of your life. It’s the vacation where everyone got a stomach bug, and that really is the highpoint. It’s the great job that keeps you awake at night worrying over money and how to get it all done. It’s the enviable relationship that looks so perfect but in reality has a history complete with hurt and disappointment that rivals its’ joyful moments. People tend to see what they want to see.

The moral of this story is that at a time of the yearly holiday card and updates and lavish New Years celebrations where the perception is that everyone else’s life may seem so perfect; keep in mind that there is always another side to every picture or post. The good walks hand in hand with the difficult in everyone’s life and it’s a matter of choice where you put your focus.

“There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ― Aldous Huxley


About Magnolia Beginnings

Just when you think you have it all down it changes again or... “Reshaping life! People who can say that have never understood a thing about life—they have never felt its breath, its heartbeat—however much they have seen or done. They look on it as a lump of raw material that needs to be processed by them, to be ennobled by their touch. But life is never a material, a substance to be molded. If you want to know, life is the principle of self-renewal, it is constantly renewing and remaking and changing and transfiguring itself, it is infinitely beyond your or my obtuse theories about it.” ― Boris Pasternak, Doctor Zhivago

15 responses »

  1. I love this – and that photo is awesome. Lst year, my mom wrote the good the bad and the ugly in her Christmas letter and we made so much fun of her because we didn’t think people wanted to hear about the basement flooding and her car breaking down. Shame on us! 😉

    • Good for your mom! I looked at my own facebook and after posting a bunch of really wonderful things had to laugh at my self because if anyone only knew all the background crap that was going on at the same time thier hair would stand on end! It seemed more like bragging than sharing and that wasn’t how I meant it. I just choose to focus on the good stuff which is not the complete reality.

  2. Very, very true. I know sometimes I find myself guarding the dam. If one crack is allowed, a flood may follow. Sometimes appearing to be what people expect takes less energy. Sorry, my mind is rambling and too tired to coherently express the button you pushed. Thanks for the intro- and extrospection.

  3. This is a fantastic post. I tried in the beginning to write positive uplifting posts but I was going through a terrible time and inevitably the horror stories did come out. One thing I noticed was that when I wrote my gut-wrenching but truthful posts when I felt down, I got more comments from people. Moreover, people whose own posts are full of positiveness and inspiration, opened up and told me of similar experiences and feelings in their own lives, or even short-comings in their own lives. They told me their ‘other side’. You are correct that we try to portray the “everything is going fantastic” side to the rest of the world. I have never been one to wallow or trudge around with a ‘woe-is-me’ blanket on all day, and it was difficult at first to know what to do with the constant cloud I now seemed to have. It did help to know that everybody has this same ‘other side’ and so that I am no different, no better, no worse than anyone else. Life is life. It puts things into perspective. Thanks for the post.

    • Thanks Elizabeth. I’m probably one of those people that felt free to talk about the dark times with you. I don’t think I’ve found a way to write through those times like you have. I think it’s cathartic as well as helpful to others so I’m grateful you can do it so well. I tend to crawl until a ball and come out when I feel better. I wouldn’t recommend this approach.

      • Thanks for your reply. And thanks for being there for me and making comments “in those dark times”. It has meant a lot to me. You and other bloggers have kept me sane! 🙂
        And don’t worry, I have had my own times of crawling into a ball! So scary when its time to come out again – but as long as we do eventually, then that’s ok. .

        I am away at present and internet is very patchy so my blogging will have to wait until I get back. Best wishes to you for 2013. 🙂

I'd love to know what you think

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s